I need help. There, I said it. It’s one of the hardest things for me to say. I tend to do whatever I can to avoid saying it, and I usually suffer unnecessarily because of it.
My subconscious mind tells me that to ask for help is a sign of weakness. It means I’m not capable of doing it on my own. I’m not as independent and perfect as I’d like to be. It’s really ridiculous and it’s driving me crazy!
I need to be reminded that no one is perfect and it’s ok to need and ask for help. We were created for community and helping one another! And you know what I’ve realized? Most people are flattered when you ask them for help and they usually enjoy helping others. I believe that asking for help is crucial when pursuing your dreams… most great things aren’t achieved without some help.
So, here’s what I currently need some help with:
accountability – Being my own boss is a lot harder than I thought it would be and I would love to have one or two accountability partners to check in with to go over daily and/or weekly goals and encourage each other.
interviews – I’m not experienced at interviewing people and I could use some help from people who are. I’d also love some suggestions on what to ask people I interview for this website. My lack of experience and fear has kept me from moving forward and interviewing more people. I’ve talked to a ton of people who want to be interviewed and I need to start actually doing it!
photo shoots – Now that I’m using more lighting equipment it would really be helpful to have an assistant with me on every shoot, and I plan on doing mini-shoots with each interview. If you or someone you know would like to learn more about photography and is good at following instructions please let me know. I also need assistants during the interviews because I’m recording almost all of them with more than one camera.
BuddyPress – I need help from someone with BuddyPress experience. I’d like to customize this site more and allow users to blog, post photos, etc.
spreading the word – I’d love help with spreading the word about this site and it’s mission. I would love to hear from more people about their dreams, struggles, accomplishments, inspiration, etc. and share it with others here on the site. I’m looking for people to interview who have inspiring stories to share about dreams achieved or experiences in pursuit of dreams. Also, I’m looking for people who have a dream that they haven’t been pursuing and explore what’s holding them back and hopefully encourage them to go for it!
“keeping the lights on” – Ok, this is the toughest for me… but it’s just a fact that I don’t have a money tree. I’ve already put a lot of my own money and time into this website and will continue to do so. I’ve also had other generous people help me with it for free because they believed in the mission and they enjoy helping others. However, I would like to make the website even better and be able to market it more so we can reach more people. I’d also like to be able to pay those generous people that are helping me for their time and talent. I’d also LOVE to be able to purchase an external microphone so I can get better audio when recording the interview videos. So, if you are interested in ad space or know anyone who might be, please let me know. Also, if you know anyone who might be interested in investing or donating please forward the site on to them. And one last thing… I am still trying to earn a living as a photographer (and it’s tough), so if you or anyone you know needs photos please contact me!
interaction – PLEASE post comments when you can. Feedback really helps and lets me and the others who will be posting know that people are actually reading. It’s not easy for me to write and share my thoughts, and it’s even harder when I think it’s pointless because no one is reading or cares. Also, if you want to be extra awesome and helpful you could post links to the blog on your Facebook, Twitter, your own blog, etc.
Ok, there… I think that’s a good start. That wasn’t too painful. I know just like most things, it will get easier the more I do it, so I just need to keep making myself do it. You know that saying, “No pain, no gain.” Yeah, it’s usually true. I’m going to start making myself so at least one “painful” thing everyday.
Am I alone, or does anyone else have trouble asking for help too? If you have any great experiences or stories to share about asking for help I’d love to hear them!